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Iex97 (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)
everyoness fundamentallllyy got to tend your own housee before you can ever really honestly contribute to anothers life - ken
DadLabs (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)
The value of having internalized intrinsic responsibilities is huge. I get that. But some kids aren't developmentally ready to make this intellectual leap. Is it possible that using chore charts or other tools helps kids build a kind of "muscle memory" of helping out around the house. I agree with the methods and objectives of Emotion Coaching, but not all kids are high functioning enough for this to be effective.
robinshero (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)
I don't know where everyone's getting this lack of responsibility notion. Emotion coaching teaches children (among other valuable skills) that they have an intrinsic responsibility to contribute to the family (and society). Chore charts and other methods of bribery teach children that they don't have any real responsibility but we parents (and society in general) owe them something great if they do make a contribution.
OpiumPawala (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)
I also respect her opinion. Her system may incorporate many other techniques that I have not thought of and that I may be willing to explore. I just find that eliminating responsibility leads to some really tough parenting decisions in the future. Thank you for replying :)
DadLabs (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)
I have to confess that I am a big fan of the chore chart, though I respect the GoToMom's opinion.
OpiumPawala (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)
I'm not entirely sure why a chore chart would not be good. It's as simple as "Do this chore, it is your responsibility" OR "I TRUST you enough to handle this very important part of our day" then the fact that rewards are given reinforce the positive nature of chores and helping out....Sorry, I just find that a lot of these stances tend to eliminate a person's development into a strong and helpful member... Lack of responsibility breeds contempt... |